how much diplomacy

after becoming a trailling wife to a diplomat husband for nearly two years, i began to question, how much diplomacy works have we diplomats really done? sadly, what i could recall are mostly just numerous entertaining experience, one after another. the embassy all these years seems being occupied with receiving and entertaining VVIPs; be that royalties, or ministers. on top of that, of course, visa application and process is the heart of the daily embassy operation.

diplomacy doesn't have to happen by holding glamorous, expensive events. it is high time for diplomats and spouses to do more. Entertaining is part of our diplomatic job but above all, it is our duty and responsibility to give the most accurate account of our government stand and policy regarding any issues to the world. it is also our task to reach for the people around us, to understand their colossal culture and customs and to bridge any differences and matters alike.

as a spouse, i remember how a remark uttered without thoughful insight and careful words selection would easily be misleading. Imagine the repercussion on our country and religion when someone remarks, " unlike certain counties, rape is common in our country because the more our Muslim women cover their bodies, the more men become challeged to rape." imagine my shock. Such a shallow remark is absolutely very undiplomatic!